***Okay, last one from the previous. Everything from now on will be new! Huzzah.
Yes, I know, it has been some time since I have posted anything. What’s more, the subjects are even older. Nonetheless, I have a new one! At least it is in before the six month marker. Cue the ticker-tape…

There was always something missing. Most people had one, I did not. It was blatantly obvious. Especially in mixed company. In most social occasions, one or two will be put to use to get through lapses in conversation. When the bottoms of glasses and the cleanliness of shoe-treads become of particular interest, most socialites will draw upon theirs to hump the trail off.
A good New Year’s Eve story is always at the top of the anecdotal list. This is where I was lacking, I couldn’t carry the conversation with a “… one New Year’s, we went…” Now, at long last, I have a story! Get your refills and stop contemplating your navel, let me tell you a story…
On December 31, Ma Bebe, my good friend Madmike, and I went to Slim’s to see one of my most favorite bands, Hepcat. Planning for three months to attend the show, I was getting there in earnest. Madmike had come to the left coast from Pittsburgh, PA (n’at) just for the show (Well, to hang with the boy wonder also)! With the arrival of Madmike, something spectacular happened: I received my first visitor! How about that, there is someone that actually likes me enough to visit. Or is it that the benefits of escaping a PA winter to temperate Bay Area is more attractive? Dunno. What I DO know is that as great it was to see Madmike and have a flesh and blood visitor; I wasn’t able to spend a lot of time with him. Due to the fact that I work in the industry of scorn and persuasion, my waking hours were filled up by taking back angry and unfulfilling gifts in exchange for settlements and empty promises. Never mind what they say about the retail world during the holiday rush, the most loathsome time of year is the returns season.
Dreadfulness manifesting awareness of our own separations from those that we want to know us, the ones we want to see our dreams, desires and loves. To see the little boy holding the dream. Boxing Day has become the day of a mortuary; the death of dreams, aura, and ego. Ultimately, with mirror staring back, we see our shortcomings as a friend, sibling, kin, and spouse. Hollow, we wander in and with a thinly-veiled lie attempt to expunge the insult.
We are all separated from those that we have always wanted to be close to. Divorcee father can’t see his sons. Collegiate girls can’t talk to their mothers. Friends, spread from coast to coast, following empty dreams, are estranged from the support groups cultivated for years. We are away from those that we want to share a pot of tea.
I have never felt more alone than standing in the middle of the floor of Barnes & Noble two days to Christmas. Distracted by thoughts, people are aloof, unfriendly, detached, distant, remote and unapproachable. All I want is to crawl into bed next to Ma Bebe, throw my arms around her and nuzzle the back of her neck. C’est la Vie, et elle est au loin et je suis près d’à loneliness. Watching television, I exhale, yearning.
When we reached the door of Slim’s, in SF, I was ecstatic! One of my closest friends, AND Ma Bebe with me at a Hepcat show, what could be better? I originally saw Hepcat in 1998, in Cleveland, Ohio. It was a great show! I was introduced to S.H.A.R.P. and was completely entertained at the Odeon. The band was solid, but there was something missing. I wouldn’t realize what that was until this New Years Eve. Alex De’sert had separated himself from the band to pursue his acting career. Being from Los Angeles, who can blame him. He had been with the band since 1989, when the Third Wave of Ska developed, but had gotten an ongoing gig on the show Becker as the blind newsstand guy, Jake.
Months before, when I found out that Alex had reunited with Hepcat, I immediately contacted Madmike. He was the person to introduce me to the genre and I had been separated from him with minimal contact. We hadn’t talked mostly because of my follies, but now, we were at least on speaking terms. Nearly 5 years ago I had relied upon his good graces for an exit strategy to a bad relationship, but I screwed that up, too. Embarrassed, a year ago, I got a hold of him and Madmike and I had become friends, again.
It may be because of the ecstasy of the reunification of friends and girlfriends, I was trashed that night. There were reasons to celebrate. I made it another year in California! Ma Bebe came back to spend some of the holiday season with me! I had a real friend in California! I was double fisting Pabst Blue Ribbon! By Proxy, I was getting my gf trashed! Ska music makes me dance! The Aggrolites excited me to no end!
Seriously. The Aggrolites were a band that came from nowhere. As far as I’m concerned, the Aggrolites never existed before 12/31. We, as concert-goers, have always wanted this experience. It comes out of nowhere. We’re sipping on our adult-type beverage and are waiting for the headliners when opener blows our mind! Jaw-on-chest and exploded-mind, I slurredly shook my head and agreed that these guys were amazing!
A 5-piece from L.A. the Aggrolites perfectly mix the finer points of Jamaican ska, reggae, Motown, and Atlantic Records R&B (a la Wilson Pickett) and blow your mind. I’m having a real hard time describing the experience. Not just because it was 6 months ago, but these guys were THAT good! Jaw-droppin’. If I had panties, I would have thrown them on stage! I’ve got a loaded 45 with reggae music! Quite sagacious, Jesse. All innuendo, aside, I would love to peak at your record albums.
Somehow, I got Ma Bebe trashed. I didn’t mean it, but I won’t apologize. I guess getting two drinks at a time at the bar had an affect on more than just me. By the time Hepcat got to the stage, the Aggrolites had lubricated the evening (in everyway possible), and we were in good shape. Madmike had moved to the front and I had taken my prerequisite position behind the crowd. Hepcat came on like a wave. Their 3rd wave washed over us like a warm blanket and I remembered why Alex was important to the mix. Ma Bebe got a glimpse of what I love and she smiled. It may have been the Pabst, but I believe that in between the New Years resolutions I saw the dream drawn out and fortified by friendship. Home is not just a song sang by the band, laid out along chords and scales. California is not just radical thoughts and passing fads; its home to some of us and we have found it. Friends and love are what solidify us. In times of distance I dream of finding my way home.






